What is the title of your play? You know, the theme… We all have one. If you gathered up all the significant characters in your life (your play) and had each of them tell you what they thought of you, would they say things like, “you are a courageous and loving man/woman who knows how to speak your truth. It empowers me to be around you.” Or would they say something like, “you are doing it wrong, you are still not good enough, you are not lovable, you can’t get it right…”? If you have done your work and healed your core wounding you are likely hearing the former. If you are still attracting people into your life that are reflecting your core wounding (because it is still gaping open), you are likely hearing versions of the latter.
The moral: everybody in your life reflects something that you believe about yourself – deep down. Today, pay attention. What are the characters in your play reflecting back to you? That will be the title of your play right now.
Here’s the bottom line: We have an inner thermostat that determines the amount of love and success we allow ourselves. When we exceed our setting, we tend to sabotage ourselves so that we can return to the old, familiar zone where we feel secure. The thermostat was set before you could think for yourself, usually in early childhood.